There’s more to sexuality than you may think.
The physical part of it, as you’re probably already aware, deals with our bodies and the actual act of sex.
But wait, there’s more – much more!
We’re complex beings, and our sexuality is a thread woven throughout every area of our lives. Sexuality is a part of who we are and it influences the choices we make as female or male individuals.
Your sexuality should be treated as a treasured gift. Saving this gift to be opened in marriage has wonderful benefits for you and your future.
Watch Family Guy, Glee or Bad Girl’s Club? Sex without strings and one-night stands make for entertaining television and the drama is what sells to the living room audience. Whether it’s a cartoon, reality show or sitcom, many shows give the message that sex is free from any consequences.
Why don’t they show the complications of having multiple sexual partners? Because the painful realities connected to sex outside of marriage will not sell. Let’s face it, Hollywood is in the business to sell pleasure to make a profit. If you are mimicking the fantasyland of television, be prepared sooner or later for the painful physical, emotional or mental consequences that will give you a swift slap-in-the-face reality check.
What’s the Problem? It’s Just Sex
Actually there’s more going on than you think. You see, the biggest, most powerful sex organ is your brain. And some pretty serious “brain events” always occur with sexual experience:
Attachment – Do you ever wonder why you just can’t shake the thoughts of someone you were sexually active with? This is because the brain releases endorphins and enkephalins when two people share repeated sexual acts. These neurohormones can cause people to want more contact with each other. This attachment or “bonding” is felt as an emotion, but it’s actually brain activity.
Pleasure addiction— How can something that feels good, be harmful? Remember the last time you did something so exciting you felt a rush? Well, that rush came from your brain, releasing dopamine—which acts as a “reward signal.” When we do something pleasurable, such as sex, it causes a desire for more, which is one characteristic of addiction. Again felt as an emotion, but it’s caused by brain activity.
As you can see, sex is a lot more complicated than you may have originally thought. After all, you can’t stop what goes on in your brain.
Hey, I’m just having a little fun while I’m young…
Go ahead and have fun! But exploring sexually will most likely bring you to a dead end. Patterns of behavior repeated over and over will become habit – that’s just how our brains are structured. Physical sexual expression outside of marriage can produce challenging and even life-altering outcomes.
I’ve been sexually active…is it too late for me?
It’s never too late. If you have already been sexually active you can make the decision to stop. Although starting over, like with any habit, will have its challenges. You can do it though! And AAA Life Services would like to help. Contact us or stop by; our services are free of charge and we’re in walking distance from Clarion University in Clarion, Pa.
If you have experienced sexual abuse/violence, you can have a fresh start too. We can help you work through the emotional pain you’ve experienced. Talking about what happened and how you feel can begin the process of healing. We are here to support you!
Choosing Abstinence for Your Sexual Health
Abstinence is 100% risk free! In choosing to wait, you’ve eliminated the threat of STDs, the possibility of an unplanned pregnancy, and also the emotional and relational damage that can come with sexual activity. On the other hand, if you have sex outside of a faithful marriage you put yourself at risk for all of the above. And unfortunately you won’t know how it will affect you until the damage is done.
Abstinence is not outdated nor is it unrealistic. If you are not having sex, even if you are in a serious relationship, then you are abstaining from sex. It can be a realistic choice and lifestyle that can take a lot of pressure off any dating relationship. Only YOU can make this choice for your life and it will take courage.
Making the Change
So maybe you are starting to think all this may be true. Well, you may need some help, and that’s where we come in. Stop by and talk to us at AAA Life Services across from Clarion University in Clarion, Pa. We’re honest, open and good at listening. Remember, you alone are responsible for the decisions about your sexual health. Contact us at 814-226-7007 today!