Relationships: Making the Right Choice
When you’re looking for a romantic relationship, there are many important things to consider. Let’s face it, we all know there are people out there we should avoid when it comes to romance, and there are others worth checking out. The trick is: How do you go about making a choice that will help lead to a stable, positive relationship?
Starting Your Healthy Relationship…
First, observe the person from a distance to see if you get any red flags that would warn you about entering into a dating, marriage, or sexual relationship with them. Look for things like addictions, angry outbursts, questionable character traits, poor decision making skills and whether they’ve got a healthy or unhealthy family background.
If this person passes your first evaluation, then take a closer look. How well do they match you in areas like: intellect, energy, values, spirituality, work ethic, sense of humor and mood management? And we all know that attraction is important too — are you physically attracted to each other?
If you are already in a relationship, how successful are you at managing each other’s personality and character traits? Take a good look at your communication, conflict resolution, sociability, kindness, and dominance vs. submissiveness tendencies.
A Word of Warning
If you are unmarried and having sex, there are some things you need to consider … because your choices affect your future.
The pleasure and excitement of sex outside of marriage is temporary. However, it will make you vulnerable to risks like these that can last a lifetime:
- Emotional – guilt, anger, depression, confusion, hurt, feeling used
- Intellectual – grades dropping in school, seeing yourself as dumb, not considering consequences
- Social – damaged reputation, suspicious or angry parents, disrespectful partner, loss of friends
- Spiritual – feeling unworthy of God’s love, wanting to start over, feeling distant from God, lack of peace
Think You Can’t Wait Until Marriage for Sex?
Is an unmarried relationship really a safe place for sex? Will it make your relationship healthy or unhealthy? How long should you know the person anyway? Is a one-night stand, hooking up, or sex at a party (that you may not even remember) really a healthy environment for physical sexual expression? These are all important questions to take time to consider and you may just find out that sex is so special … that it’s worth the wait.
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