Want a Healthy Relationship?
Here are some guidelines that can help:
Q. What do I say when my boyfriend/girlfriend says, “I love you”?
A. Want to diffuse that awkward silence? How about simplifying things by saying, “Thank you.” No need to feel obligated to spit those three little words out if that’s not how you really feel. After all, saying “I love you” to someone before you are ready will put drama in your relationship – guaranteed.
Q. How do I handle things when my friend tells me he/she wants to be more than just friends?
A. For starters, what do you want? If you are content with the friendship remaining a friendship then that’s how it should continue. Honestly if it’s a good friendship, why mess with a good thing, especially if you are not romantically interested. Trying to make it something it’s not could cause the friendship to end.
Q. Why am I so afraid to lose my relationship?
AA. If you feel your whole world hinges on this relationship,
then it sounds like you’re lacking of self-confidence. Most likely, this stems from a regular diet of poor and unhealthy relationships with family members and peers in your past. When you’re emotionally empty, the thought of one more relationship ending can make you fearful and sad. Also, if you’ve been sexually active, there’s an emotional bond that could be causing this fear. Read more on our Sexuality Page.
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Q. What should I do if my boyfriend/girlfriend is involved in something dangerous?
A. You may feel as if you can save your partner from dangerous behavior like drinking or drug abuse. Unfortunately, this method of thinking can backfire. It’s a good idea to share your concerns with your partner or to confide in a trusted adult to assist you. But as much as you care for this person, you cannot make their choices for them. Remaining in a dating relationship with them could put you at risk with their dangerous choices and the consequences that follow.
Q. What are the signs of an abusive relationship?
A. Abuse comes in many forms like those listed below. You can read more on our Sexual Abuse Page:
- Physical Abuse: physical force meant to scare or hurt, like hitting, shoving, kicking, etc.
- Emotional/Verbal Abuse: non-physical behavior such as threats, name-calling, intimidation, isolation or stalking.
- Sexual Abuse: when any form of undesired sexual behavior is forced on you by another person.
So, what’s an unhealthy relationship look like?
If you can say yes to one or more of these statements, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.
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- My partner calls me mean names like “stupid” or “fat” or “worthless.”
- My partner has threatened to commit suicide if I leave.
- My partner often accuses me of cheating or of being attracted to other people.
- My partner acts jealous when I spend time with friends, family or classmates.
- My partner checks up on me by calling me or getting someone else to call me.
- My partner always wants to know who I talk to on the phone or who I’ve texted.
- My partner blames me if they have a bad day or are in a bad mood.
- My partner throws or destroys things when angry.
- My friends have told me they worry about me because they think my partner is abusive.
- My partner hits walls, drives dangerously, or does other things that scare me.
- My partner drinks excessively or uses drugs.
- My partner teases me in ways that hurt my feelings.
- My partner doesn’t respect my privacy. (He/she reads my email, goes through my personal things, demands access to my desk/locker, or insists on seeing my text message history.)
- My partner has threatened to hurt me.
- My partner has intentionally hit, kicked, slapped, punched, or hurt me in other ways.
- My partner forces me to go further sexually than I want to.
- My partner is sweet, kind, and apologetic to me in front of other people, but mean when we’re alone. Or vice versa.